Friday, July 15, 2011
Why did VA House of Delegates Clerk Bruce Jamerson commit suicide today?
I agree with KellyG that there will be speculation, since the media is reporting there was no note. There are often typical reasons that people take their lives. Marital infidelity, fear of an impending investigation or arrest for misconduct, double life, embezzlement, self loathing, terminal illness,....and the list goes on. As someone in a helping profession I can attest to the fact that there is no one answer to "why does someone take their life?" The reasons are as vast and diverse as there are people. What is so perplexing is when someone who appears (and that's a key issue...appears) to have his or her life in order decides to commit suicide. People can't understand the old saying that "most men lead lives of quiet desperation." Bruce Jamerson was a gracious, educated, intelligent and kind gentleman. That's the exterior people experienced. Perhaps none of us has a clue as to what was REALLY going on inside. Maybe he was a major control freak...everything neat and tidy. Actually I would have to say that is a given. Perhaps in the middle of all that there may have been something very untidy that he simply could not deal with, and he saw as the only way out the ending of his life. I can only feel sadness at his passing, but not the blame for not being there for him. That is the big difference between genuine FRIENDS and mere acquaintances. The true friends are few in life, though we may have loads of people pass for friends but are just acquaintances. He chose to be thoughtful and send cards and notes to just about everyone. Most people don't do that. It was a gracious gesture, but seeing it now in retrospect, who knows why he did that? To be liked? To be held in high regard? Or simply to be kind. We may never know. Regardless of what, if anything may be revealed in the days ahead, I hope that he will always be remembered for being the gentleman that he was.
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